Yes, I’m a greedy slut. 😉
I am a polyamorous, bisexual, switch. Don’t worry if you don’t know what that means, I’ll explain it before this post is over. I am an active member of both BDSM/kink and Poly/swing communities (Again, I’ll explain what I mean). I am a Tantric Buddhist and believer in the arts of energy exchange as a means to enlightenment. That being said, I am probably one of the most non-traditional, Black women that you will ever meet.
So let’s start at the beginning: I don’t believe in monogamy. I think that humans are naturally polyamorous creatures emotionally, sexually, etc. Naturally, we engage in multiple relationships to fulfill our diverse needs. Generally speaking, no one person can fulfill your EVERY need as a human. So we as humans have different people for different needs. For the romantic, sexual, emotional, and other needs, we have our best friends, romantic partners, casual partners, and more.
I am unapologetically bisexual. I love women and men. Probably somewhere around 60/40 women to men, but it’s really not all that important. I like to bake cake and eat it too. It is what it is. I enjoy romantic, emotional, casual, and sexual relationships with both sexes, and I make no qualms about the other’s orientation or sexual preferences.
I am also a switch. In the BDSM community there are people on both side of the power exchange. The people who like to have the control and people who like to give up control. The switch is like the bisexual of kink. We enjoy both sides of the coin. Now for those who are confused, BDSM stands for Bondage and Discipline, Domination and Submission, and Sadomasochism. It’s not all whips, chains and handcuffs. Or what you see on pornography. That’s a whole different conversation for another day.
One thing all this makes for is very interesting lifestyle. Alternative lifestyles get a lot weird looks and bad press for being different from what people would expect. Especially in the minority communities, anything that is different from what people perceive as normal or acceptable. People make assumptions about that which is different from them. Case and point, back in the 1800s and 1900s people made assumptions about blacks because they were different. Throughout slavery and even ‘til today, people make assumptions about the races and cultures of others that are different from theirs. They assume the worse much of the time. I encourage people all the time to ask questions and learn more about others you never know what may interest you about others choices or lifestyles.
So some people call me uncertain. Most people just call me gluttonous. I like to think of myself as an explorer. I go boldly where others dare to venture. I see the world as new territories to see and things to discover about life. As a part of my spirituality, I have incorporated Tantra into my lifestyle. Tantra is the ancient spiritual art of weaving together sexuality and spirituality. To be who I am at my core is a part of my spirituality. To some it may seem that I am being greedy and indecisive, but I am expressing my universe-given right to embrace my entire sexual being and act on it as I see fit. Unlike other people of differing faiths, I allow myself to be free sexually and hold it as a part of my spirituality. Sex, even in its crudest of forms, is still an extension of my most intimate of moments with someone else and with myself. I enjoy and revel in the fact that I can be open with who I am and what I want and need from my partners and what they want or need from me. I don’t find myself hung up on many traditional things that seem to encumber relationships and for me that I liberating. I’m not saying that this lifestyle is for everyone, but if you find that traditional lifestyles are boring or leaving you unfulfilled, try something different. Create your own sexuality. Do something different for a change. You never know where it may take you.
So yes, I’m a greedy slut.